Today is a day of remembrance and a day for celebration.
It is a day to remember Achayan (my FIL) who left us this day two years back. Achaya..you will always live in our memories.
It is also a day to remember 2 decades of our married life. Yes..it has been so long!
Over the years, we fought like cats..
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.....and made up like love birds!
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Watching us, the world may call us the least compatible couple.. but we learned much from each other and changed for each other.
But the greatest achievement of our union is our two children whom we love and adore.
During this short life full of ups and downs I have realized how fickle relationships can be.
How easy it is to blame than to accept.
How easy is to hurt than to forgive.
How easy it is to give up than continue.
How easy it is to cut relationships than to nurture it.
Our children too shall leave this home we created lovingly very soon, to face the world and to know people better or worse than us. Let me pray that they shall forgive and forget whatever we have omitted to teach them and whatever we taught them unintentionally. Let me pray that they shall always remember that we did our best and will reach out to us during their times of difficulties and triumphs.
Let me also thank God for not giving me everything that I have prayed for, but for giving me so many things that I have never prayed for but is very precious.
It is a day to remember Achayan (my FIL) who left us this day two years back. Achaya..you will always live in our memories.
It is also a day to remember 2 decades of our married life. Yes..it has been so long!
Over the years, we fought like cats..
.....and made up like love birds!
Watching us, the world may call us the least compatible couple.. but we learned much from each other and changed for each other.
But the greatest achievement of our union is our two children whom we love and adore.
During this short life full of ups and downs I have realized how fickle relationships can be.
How easy it is to blame than to accept.
How easy is to hurt than to forgive.
How easy it is to give up than continue.
How easy it is to cut relationships than to nurture it.
Our children too shall leave this home we created lovingly very soon, to face the world and to know people better or worse than us. Let me pray that they shall forgive and forget whatever we have omitted to teach them and whatever we taught them unintentionally. Let me pray that they shall always remember that we did our best and will reach out to us during their times of difficulties and triumphs.
Let me also thank God for not giving me everything that I have prayed for, but for giving me so many things that I have never prayed for but is very precious.
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ReplyDeleteFickleness of life and fickleness of relationships. I guess the former is indisputably sure to visit us all, but I'm really afraid of the fickleness of relationships, the fragility, the brittleness. It is frightening!
ReplyDeleteFighting like cats or like cats and dogs, that is an educational aspect of mates in a marriage.
A nice crisp and unassuming write up , bless you and your family and the gentleman who passed RIP .
In passing when I do a Balance sheet of my relationship with my spouse , I have to admit that 90 percent she stands out as an icon.
Anil: yes..the fragility of relationship is very frightening..hence we say everything is a Maya.. nd if it wasnt so hurting it would have been bearable...
DeleteEducational :) when some couples say they never fight it surprises me..nd wonders if fighting is normal..but then one can avoid fights if one were to just keep quiet all the time :) just accept whatever is said and done!
That is a good compliment that you have given..
That's a very sensible approach to prayer, and perceived blessings. Hope your FIL is in a good place, wherever he might be.
ReplyDeleteIcyhighs: A warm welcome to my blog..do visit again..did visit your blog..a fiction writer?
DeleteSometimes what you pray for is not what is right for u :)
Hello Asha,
ReplyDelete"..when some couples say they never fight it surprises me..nd wonders if fighting is normal..but then one can avoid fights if one were to just keep quiet all the time ."
That gives me an idea for a story inspired from bits and pieces of life .
Looking forward to read it.. I am sure it will throw more light on relationship
DeleteHi,I never knew you are active blogger,though I follow you on twitter.
ReplyDeleteGood to follow you here too
Actually you were a visitor some time back but then you forgot this blog...welcome back nd please dont forget me agn ;)
DeleteIn this post you have drawn the cycle of life and the dynamics in between. continued blessings hk.
ReplyDeleteanrosh
Thank you Anrosh
DeleteNice touching post.
ReplyDeleteLet it be an eye opener for the bachelors like me ;)
Wishing you a happy weekend.
Convey my regards to your children and husband.
Regards,
Abhilash
Thank you Abhi..so when r u getting tied up? Think u have enjoyed ur freedom enough :)
Deletehappy anniversary..
ReplyDeleteand many more to come...
Thank u very much Maddy...
Deletehappy anniversary..
ReplyDeleteand many more to come...
touchy post with beautiful pics
ReplyDeleteThank u SM.
DeleteHello Asha
ReplyDeletePlease check my Blog Post for an award nomination in appreciation of your Blog.
Thank u Anil..much appreciated...did read ur blog but am yet yo comment..
DeleteHaving seen your site on Anilkurup's blog I thought I'd stop by to say hello. Nice to have met you, I've enjoyed this bitter-sweet post. PW
ReplyDeleteA warm welcome to my blog PW..hope to see u often...
DeleteI like that about Achayan and remembering him.
ReplyDeleteAchayan was a down to earth, hardy man! He lived life to the fullest. We miss him..he had a special way of calling me :)
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